Losing a child is not an easy journey and can be emotionally taxing for you and your partner. We wanted to let you know that you aren’t alone and this happens more often than you think. According to the American Pregnancy Association, 10-15% of pregnancies end in miscarriages. It is important for you and your partner to be sensitive to each other. Let intimate friends and family members know that you are in mourning of your child even if you think this is difficult to share with others.
Be There for Your Significant Other
You will experience the loss of the baby in a completely different way than your significant other and that is totally okay. We all mourn loss differently and you should be accepting of how they are coping with it. Let them know that you are there for them too and that you are feeling the pain as well. This will help bring your closer to your significant other and help the both of you cope with the loss. Even if you aren’t on the same page give them space, so they can mourn on their own for a little bit. Some people just need some space.
Coping with Guilt
You may feel guilt that you lost your baby, but you shouldn’t feel this way. You need to change your perspective and think of miscarriage as something that happened to you and not something you did. You have no control over a pregnancy may pan out. Changing your perspective will help you cope with the guilt that you are feeling.
Getting Closure of this Miscarriage
At some point, you and your significant other will have to move on to what happened, but this does not mean that you have to forget about your baby. Take all the time you need to mourn this loss. It is important to remember that just how people mourn differently, people also get closure differently. Make sure that you and your significant other get the closure that you need even if it is different. Give yourself the permission to do anything to get the closure you need to move on. You can do a little ceremony to honor your baby or write how you feel in a journal.
Get Emotional Support from Loved Ones
You don’t have to rely on your significant other for emotional support. Lean on close family members and friends. Join online or local support groups with other women or couples who are dealing with a miscarriage. Ask your OBGYN if they have any recommendations for these support groups.
How Long Should We Wait Before Trying Again
Just as we said earlier, a miscarriage is something that happened to you and has nothing to do with what you did. Keeping that in mind, you and your significant other will have the opportunity to try again to have a successful pregnancy when you have fully mourned and gotten closure from your miscarriage. There really isn’t a right timetable as to why you should try again. This varies from couple to couple, but you need to do what is right for you and your significant other. You have to take into consideration as well your physical and emotional well-being.
Remember to take everything one day at a time, and everything will be okay.