Let’s be honest here, all relationships no matter the type of relationship you are in it can be difficult. Naturally, all relationships experience their fair share of ups and downs especially the longer a relationship is. Even if you have your ideal partner things can be challenging at times.
Don’t get us wrong challenges are great opportunities to strengthen your relationship and bring you closer to your partner. So if you and your partner are struggling with infertility – just know that you aren’t alone.
We are going to share our top four tips that will help strengthen your relationship with your partner when it comes to dealing with infertility.
Tip #1: Communication
All relationships work if there is only open and honest communication. Be open and honest about how you are feeling and what you are thinking about with your infertility journey. This will allow you to be vulnerable and allow your partner to understand you better and how you are coping. Even if disclosing these feelings are challenging for you, do it anyway. You trust your partner and love them. You shouldn’t put in the dark or shut them out. Trust them. Open up. Allow them the opportunity to be there for you.
If communicating is difficult for the both of you, then you could go see a therapist that can help you work on your communication skills, which is okay. It is great to get an outside perspective at times. A lot of couples go to therapy and it helps them strengthen their relationship. It won’t hurt to try.
Tip #2: Let Go Of All Family Stereotypes
This tip might be a tough one. You must let go of all family stereotypes. You know the ones. Having one boy or girl that will look a lot like the parents. The happy ending that society has painted about having a family. Just know that no matter if a family gets created or how your family gets created through adoption or surrogacy – it doesn’t matter what society thinks. It only matters what you and partner think. Keep that in mind.
Tip #3: Forgiveness
Forgive yourself and your partner. This may take time to fully come into effect and that is okay. What matters the most is that you get there. There is no sense putting blame on each other for infertility. Let go of those negative feelings and replace them with feelings of compassion, understanding, care, and love for your partner and the life that you have created with your partner thus far.
Tip #4: Love Your Partner Unconditionally
When there is forgiveness then there is the beauty of loving unconditionally. Remember that there are things that are out of your control and you just have to accept it and let it be. Bad days happen and those are the days that we need more love. And just like forgiveness, you have to love yourself unconditionally as well.
You and your partner need to work hard and fight for each other every day. By applying these tips it can help you strengthen your relationship with your partner.
Do you have any additional tips? Do share them with us in the comments.